We've always known that we'd adopt someday, mostly thinking that when we were done birthing babies we'd adopt. Then complications came up with trying to conceive Trey that God miraculously sent us our Trey. Then a year after Trey was born we started trying again. Then it was 2 years later and still no baby. That was 2 months ago.
I've been seeing/hearing adoption more and more lately but I wasn't quite settled with it. I was just thinking that yes it was still on my heart but now wasn't the time. Then I read a blog post on embryo adoption and I thought "this is it". It rang true to what my desires were. I still wanted to carry babies in my belly, I still want to give birth, and to nurse them and hold them. But also I'd get to bring a baby into our family that was frozen/stuck.
I told David and he wanted me to do some research. Well I put it off for a few days and then today (Sunday) I was in the shower and just started praying about it. I prayed that God would speak plainly to me about whether this is something we needed to pursue and to put it on David's heart too.
After church this morning I asked David what he thought and he said he'd been thinking about adoption. So I told him what I'd prayed that morning and cried about wanting my babies. He said if it was important enough for me to be this moved by it then we needed to look into it more and that it was probably something we needed to do.
So I spent some time researching it today. I got overwhelmed really fast, just like I usually do when I look up adoption info. But the research I found on embryo adoption was adding in all this extra stuff in the paperwork, time frame and money. So I started looking up embryo donation. So far I feel better about it but I still have more research to do.
I also did a little reading on a blog about it and got the impression that a pregnancy like this would be considered a high-risk one and that scares me too. That means that I can't do a home birth and most likely would be looking at another cs. This breaks my hear too because I've been dreaming for 3 years about a peaceful water-birth at home.
I prayed tonight that if this is something we really need to do that God would send us $8,000. $5 for the transfer, $1 for a lawyer & travel and $2 for Anne & Margaret (home birth). And it just needs to come without us making some big announcement.
I told David that this isn't a neat and easy thing we're looking at. And it's so hard to seek out something that you know will be hard.
I've been seeing/hearing adoption more and more lately but I wasn't quite settled with it. I was just thinking that yes it was still on my heart but now wasn't the time. Then I read a blog post on embryo adoption and I thought "this is it". It rang true to what my desires were. I still wanted to carry babies in my belly, I still want to give birth, and to nurse them and hold them. But also I'd get to bring a baby into our family that was frozen/stuck.
I told David and he wanted me to do some research. Well I put it off for a few days and then today (Sunday) I was in the shower and just started praying about it. I prayed that God would speak plainly to me about whether this is something we needed to pursue and to put it on David's heart too.
After church this morning I asked David what he thought and he said he'd been thinking about adoption. So I told him what I'd prayed that morning and cried about wanting my babies. He said if it was important enough for me to be this moved by it then we needed to look into it more and that it was probably something we needed to do.
So I spent some time researching it today. I got overwhelmed really fast, just like I usually do when I look up adoption info. But the research I found on embryo adoption was adding in all this extra stuff in the paperwork, time frame and money. So I started looking up embryo donation. So far I feel better about it but I still have more research to do.
I also did a little reading on a blog about it and got the impression that a pregnancy like this would be considered a high-risk one and that scares me too. That means that I can't do a home birth and most likely would be looking at another cs. This breaks my hear too because I've been dreaming for 3 years about a peaceful water-birth at home.
I prayed tonight that if this is something we really need to do that God would send us $8,000. $5 for the transfer, $1 for a lawyer & travel and $2 for Anne & Margaret (home birth). And it just needs to come without us making some big announcement.
I told David that this isn't a neat and easy thing we're looking at. And it's so hard to seek out something that you know will be hard.
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